for the benefit of all people, i believe.. :)

..i've read this article a while ago, and found it really interesting and true.. so i decided to share it with you guys.. :)

DATING 101: Are Bad Dating Habits Keeping You Single?

Five tips to free yourself from common dating traps...
By Lisa Steadman, The Relationship Journalist

In the search for love, it's all too easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken hearts, and bad love habits. And while bad dates and broken hearts are part of the dating journey toward happily-ever-after, bad love habits can and should be avoided at all costs.
So what's a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that's keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship. The following are some common bad dating beliefs:
• You choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs.

• You think love has to be difficult, painful, and/or hard.

• You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.

• You believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children.

If any of the above sound familiar, don't worry. You're not a lost cause. In fact, with a little time and effort, you can turn things around! What follows are five simple and effective tips and techniques geared toward helping you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad dating habits. Practiced over time, you can and will kick any bad dating habit -- for good!

1. Identify the dating traps you're stuck in
Think you've got to miraculously solve all your problems before you'll be deserving of love? Convinced there are no good "ones" left? Or do you believe that your perfect partner will one day swoop in and magically save you from your life? If any or all of the above sound familiar, chances are good that you suffer from some common dating traps. In order to become a successful single, you first need to free yourself from these traps. Acknowledging the traps you're stuck in is the first step. Next, you've got to break free of these traps, as well as any other limiting or destructive beliefs that are keeping you stuck. To find out how, keep reading.

2. Assess your excess baggage
Next, it's important to get honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on dates (or in life in general). What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Rejection, disappointment, betrayal? This is from your past, not your present or future. If you've got negative or destructive beliefs or fears weighing you down, you owe it to yourself to dump that excess baggage!

3. Dump your excess baggage
In order to have a happily ever after future, you have to first believe you deserve finding a mate. Gather those painful memories, that chip on your shoulder, any residual anger from past relationship experiences, and tell them they've got to go. Thank them for the lessons you've learned and tell them that it's now time for you to stand on your own two feet. In your mind's eye, give them the heave-ho! Next, start visualizing the kind of life you want to have, complete with your dream job, perfect partner, ideal home, etc. By getting clear about what you want, you give yourself permission to attract it.

4. Stop putting off your life and/or personal happiness
So many of us put off personal happiness waiting for some external result like "I'll be happy when I lose weight, when I pay off my debts, when I get a better job." The truth is, you deserve to enjoy your fabulously imperfect life right this very minute!
When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities. Instead of postponing joy until something external happens, today's the day to start celebrating the joy in your everyday life.

5. Embrace a new dating vocabulary
Now that you're baggage light and dating-trap free, it's time to introduce a new vocabulary to your dating belief system. Every morning and night for 30 days, practice the following exercise: Say to yourself "Love/dating/my ideal relationship is..." and then fill in the blank with the appropriate words (words like healthy, whole, loving, fun, etc.). By creating a new vocabulary for yourself, you may be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships changes, and as a result, you'll start attracting happier and healthier potential partners. Love that!
So there you have it -- five simple dating tips and techniques to help you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad love habits. May you learn them, love them, live them. In doing so, you just may fall in love with your life all over again, not to mention exponentially increase your chances of future relationship success.

Good luck and happy dating! :)

hibernating.....

too obvious, im soooo damn busy nowadays.. can't even update my blog.. hay! :(

too many things happened dis past few days... mixed emotions?? yeah ryt....
as they say, "When it Rains, it pours.." and "When it rains, it floods.." hahaha...
oh well, don't have enough time... i really can't accomodate all of them.. hehehe...

but seriously, my HEART is focused on one person right now, and i hope he wouldn't give me severe headaches.... :)

don't have to elaborate.. i'm speechless, can't say anything 'bout it.... obviously, my blog is really hibernating.. lol.. and im sooo sorry 'bout it.. :))

Milk and Toast and Honey by Roxette

Milk and toast and honey make it sunny on a rainy Saturday, he-he-hey
Milk and toast, some coffee take the stuffiness out of days you hate, you really hate
Slow morning news pass me by
I try not to analyze but didn't he blow my mind this time
Didn't he blow my mind?

(Here he comes)
To bring a little lovin', honey
To take away the hurt inside
Is everything that matters to me
Is everything I want in life

Milk and toast and honey
Ain't it funny how things sometimes look so clear and feel so near
The dreams I dream, my favourite wishful thinkin'
Oh, he's bookmarked everywhere, everywhere
True love might fall from the sky
You never know what to find but didn't he blow my mind this time
Didn't he blow my mind?

(Here he comes)
To bring a little lovin', honey
To take away the pain inside
Is everything that matters to me
Is everything I want from life

Oh lay a little lovin', honey
To feel you're gettin' close to me
Is everything that matters to me
Is everywhere I wanna be....

FULL Tank MATTERS!!! :)

for the past weeks, me too felt the sudden fuel price increase.. argh! dis past few weeks (3 weeks i think), i never had the chance to go to a gasoline station for zajh's FULL Tank.. minsan pa2gas k xa 500, 800, 1000 or 1500php and the minimum is 300,, and NEVER a FULL tank for the past 3 weeks.. :( i remember the days 2loi when i was in grade school and high school, kahit magpa-gas lng cna mommy ng 100 or 200php eh okei na.. super layo na ng mapu2ntahan namin.. but nowadays dat is never applicable, kng magpa2-gas k ng 100 or 200php ngayon eh sandali lng at EMPTY ka na ulet.. grabe! hirap tlg ng life ngayon.. and dahil ilang weeks din akong hnd nkapag full tank, i thought of having zajh a FULL tank right now.. yipeee.. :) if ever cgro ngsa2lita ang kotse k, eh super happy and nagpa2salamat cgro xa ngyn sa gnawa k.. haha.. :D
i am now reviving my habit of having zajh a full tank every start of the week.. para khit every start ng week eh maramdaman kong FULL tank xa.. haha.. :D and dat is a 'promise'!.. so to start my promise... here's a captured pic, proof na FULL Tank c zajh for the start of dis week.. hmmmm, i think zajh is now ready to go to Cabanatuan for this week.. :)

Who Am I by Casting Crowns

>> i love this song, so true about us.. For if we are so broken, still God accepts us. When the praises go up, all the blessings come down! Also, nothing can be more overwhelming than knowing that our God did everything for us.. So why should we fear?? Folks, please be reminded that when we feel so abandoned and helpless, let us call upon His name.. Believe that God could do beyond our expectations.

>> Listen to the message of this song.. and find time to reflect on your life.. May this song draw you closer to the Lord our God.. :)




Who Am I?
That the Lord of all the earth,
Would care to know my name,
Would care to feel my hurt.
Who am I?
That the bright and morning star,
Would choose to light the way,
For my ever wandering heart.

Bridge:
Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.

Chorus:
I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.

Who am I?
That the eyes that see my sin
Would look on me with love
And watch me rise again.
Who am I?
That the voice that calmed the sea,
Would call out through the rain,
And calm the storm in me.

Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.


I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.

Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.


I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.

I am yours.

Whom shall I fear?
Whom shall I fear?
'Cause I am yours.
I am yours...

due to insistent public demand.. :)

today is sunday and because im not totally loaded with lectures this coming week.. i decided to do my friends' favor.. and what's that all 'bout?.. to burn them with mp3 discs.. :) ang tagal k n kasing utang sakanila un.. imagine 5 peeps ang nagpa2burn skn and each person 3cds ang gustong compilation.. whew! ang bisyo nila noh.. hehe, wala nMn aq mag2awa kc lahat un mga friends k and d aq maka2tanggi sknla, kc evrytym na sa2kay cla s kotse k.. iba2ng music ang mga nari2nig nila.. that's why gusto nila,
they all have copies ng new songs na meron aq.. :) plus ung mga pinapadownload nila eh sinasama k n rin.. :) madali lng nMn magburn db, ang naka2hilo lng eh ung pagco2mpile depending s mga songs na gusto nila and pagla2gay nun per folder..hehe.. tpos 5 persons p un.. o db? kaloka.. :))
wala tlg aq mgawa ngyn, kaya pagbi2gyan k na ang munting favor nila..hehe.. plus the fact na mejo tinatamad din aq mag-aral ngayn..hehehe.. buti nlng at all day lng aq d2 s haus.. swerte nila tlg.. hehe.. :p
wala lng tlg aq magawa kaya napablog lng.. d n maxado updated 2ng blog ko with events..hehe.. la ng time for blogging eh.. sad! :(

>> a must: try to read, absorb and comprehend.. :)

Before, hinahabol kita pero di mo ako pinapansin. Tapos isang araw nawala ako, hinanap mo ako at tinanong, "Bakit ka nagsawa?" Ngumiti ako, "Hindi ako nagsawa. Natauhan lang."
Pwede mo kong lokohin pero wag kang magpapahuli sakin.
Pwede mo kong palitan pero siguraduhin mong mas mahal mo siya sakin.
Pwede mo kong iwan pero siguraduhin mong kaya mo.
Kasi pag ako sobrang nasaktan, wala ka nang babalikan.

Ang Boys? Pag trip ka, magpapakilala.
Kaibigan kuno hanggang pumorma na.
Tapos pag nahulog ka na, ayun, goodbye na dahil sawa na sila.
Pero dapat walang iiyak at smile lang tayo.
Punyeta, anong silbi ng KARMA??..

I fell in love and got hurt but I didn't shed too much tears nor did I ask him to love me again. Instead, I stood up proudly and said, "Ganyan talaga ang magaganda!
Hindi bagay sa tanga!"
Simple lang para hindi ka masaktan. Kapag minahal ka, mahalin mo din. Kapag ginago ka, gaguhin mo rin! Pero kapag umiyak ka, tanga ka! Ginago ka na nga, iiyakan mo pa?..

Pag iniwan ka ng mahal mo, wag mo siyang sisihin! Kausapin mo siya ng harap-harapan at sabihin mong, "Ingat, tanga ka pa naman!"

Masakit pag iniwan ka ng mahal mo. Pero wag kang magagalit ng husto.
Kahit papano may pinagsamahan naman kayo, diba?
Kaya for the last time yakapin mo siya at ibulong mo, "Gago, kukulamin kita!
hahaha...

Girls, talo daw kayo sa mga boys? Papayag kayo? Sige, pag niligawan tayo, sagot agad.
Pag iniwan tayo? Ok lang. Kapag sinabi nilang, "Uy, EX ko." Alam niyo sagot diyan? "Ay, ambisyoso."

If the one you love doesn't love you back, don't get depressed. Just think about it for a while, maybe cry a bit then wipe your tears and say, "Ang weird naman niya. Di siya pumapatol sa magaganda!"

You only got one life so live it well., one heart so take good care, one soul so keep it pure. One boyfriend? What a waste! Make it two or more! Sayang ganda natin noh!!!

Pag sinabi sa iyo ng mahal mo na ayaw na niya sa iyo, hayaan mo lang. Wag kang iiyak at magpapakagago! Imbis na iyakan mo siya, ngitian mo lang at sabihin mo ang ganito, "So, paano? Bye na! Naghihintay na ang kapalit mo!"

Who cares about break-ups? Oo nga, masakit. Makirot sa puso. Pero tandaan mo: a break-up isn't only an end to a relationship. It's also a beginning of a new one and an end to a living hell called "EX". Di b?..

..Words to Ponder.. :)

Surround yourself with love. Though this may seem to you the most impossible emotion to experience in the first stages following a separation, it is to become your course of action when you realize that love is the key to your control of self and to the door that is opening towards your new reality. Love is what brought you into your relationship and love is the power that will lead you to the meaningful resolution of your situation.

This decision to love must first take effect with reference to yourself and to the person from whom you are separating. You must love yourself for those qualities which brought you into the realm of that other person: your willingness to give of yourself and to take the risk of being hurt. And to love the other person in spite of the pain you are feeling is to allow that person the same freedom you will both need in order to move on. Love is a force that renews us and prepares us for tomorrow. Hatred is a shackle that keeps us tied to the past. Drop the shackles!

The one from whom you have separated will not soon be forgotten, though great distances may separate the two of you. Give the memory of that person the chance to help you by insisting on remembering the beautiful experiences that united you. The painful ones which separated you will need no coaxing from the memory. Turn your anger into love. Take the qualities you found in the other person and develop them in yourself, use them as a way of better experiencing your love for all the others who are important in your life. After all, those were qualities which brought you into love and they are no less worthy today.

Love has no guilt and no boundaries. In fact, it has no definition. Yes, it is the force which takes us out of ourselves so that we may share ourselves with others. Yet it is also the force that leads us into ourselves, so that we may understand and prepare ourselves for the act of giving. You cannot resolve the bitterness and pain of the separation you are experiencing by continuing to dwell on these feelings. Come alive with the force which is the essence of life itself. You are leaving one relationship, one stop in your journey. There is still a path before you. Walk in love.