sharing....

..just wanna share to you guys what my friend (Ate Tin) have written in her blog a couple of days ago... =) I certainly believe and agree with her blog, that's why I'm sharing it to you... =)

Friendship of Ex-Lovers ~ Is it Worth Keeping or Throwing Away?

                         

After having a little chat with one of my Sisses (you’ll know who you are while reading this), I was suddenly inspired to write...

“Friends can be Lovers but Lovers CANNOT be Friends...”


I think this is the most miserable statement of all.


Personally, I believe that Ex-Lovers would make the Best of Friends. Pathetic you may say but I still believe that Ex-Lovers know each other more than anyone else in the world (aside from, of course, their current partners). At some point in their lives, they had become so glued to each other, spent most of their time together and gotten to know every significant person (i.e. family members, relatives, circle of friends) in each other’s lives. They had become the most attentive ear who listened to every word that the other had said ~ whether he recounted a humiliating day or bragged about an achievement... the most generous hand who supported one another whenever needed... the broadest shoulder whom each had cried on... the inspiration, critic, fashion consultant, movie companion, food trip partner, adventure buddy, “Santa Claus” in every occasion (i.e. monthsary, anniversary, birthday, Christmas) , driver, secretary, escort... the all-arounder... In short, they had not only been into a romantic relationship with each other but had also built friendship.


Friendship is a “treasure” that any person could have so why would anyone want to deprive himself of such gift? A person may not be financially well-off but being rich in friendship could make him the happiest to ever live on earth. With this, I think, no person should throw away any relationship that he had, even if it ended so badly. If he would look on it on an optimistic perspective, he would realize that the heart-breaking-soul shattering experience he once had with that person, provided the "loam soil" on which he had grown into a wiser, stronger and more matured person. With that, he would be a better partner to the next person he had chosen to love and get involved with. He also had to admit that he owed his Ex-lover a big chunk of what kind of person (perhaps successful) he had become at the moment. He also had to thank the other person for giving him the chance to meet and gain new friends (i.e. his partner’s family members, relatives, circle of friends) because with that, he became ten folds wealthier.


I really admire those Ex-lovers (this is where you enter Sis) who were able to preserve the friendship that they had. I see it as a sign that they had taken things with maturity and had moved on. There is no more hatred in their hearts so they were able to forgive and forget. They had buried in the past whatever had previously smashed them into pieces.


I sincerely wish that everyone would think a thousand times before hurling away any relationship into the garbage bin because the dump truck might have already collected everything and the “treasure-turned-into-trash” would be nowhere to be found by the time he realizes that we wanted to keep the friendship...

trying to revive my hibernating blog.. a starter... ;)

An excerpt from Manila Times says:

“In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with... and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose. I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a long time partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big; Inconsequentials become deal breakers simply because you're not ready and it shows. It's not that you and the person you're with are no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact...

Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens you'll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready. It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, And you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you're single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you know is that you've changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You'll think about them because you'll wonder, ‘what if they were here today?’

You'll wonder, ‘what if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?’

That's what the one that got away is, the biggest ‘WHAT IF?’ you'll have in your life.

If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you're mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with and this is just another test of your commitment, one that will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright. It's never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens...

Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. In which case, it's the same thing, you just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you do if it's not yet too late?

Simple... find him, find her. Because the very existence of a ‘ONE THAT GOT AWAY’ means that you'll always wonder, ‘What if I got that One?’

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if you've dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just might be ‘the one that got away’ as well for the person who is your ‘the one that got away’... you might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, ‘Hey you, you're the one that almost got away’..."

>> INDEED TRUE! ;)

just superficial or deep???

..something we need to think about!.. :)

No matter how you want to spin it, beautiful people are just that, beautiful. However, to what degree does it play into you finding your perfect match?

Seemingly, most of us are engulfed by a blitzing media that sells everything from lingerie to exotic cars with some gorgeous blonde or brunette sitting next to it. An idea that if it’s candy to the eyes, it will sell to the general public more readily.
While this concept is hardly new and not far from the truth, how important of a factor does it play in landing someone that you could see yourself spending the rest of your days with?

You would be surprised how shallow many adults are!

The idea of bypassing personality for the most part and simply sizing up a prospects physical attributes for a potential long term mate, can be nothing sort of disastrous.
So what is the hurt in holding out until you find a perfect match. You know, someone who has it all, personality, character, integrity, dignity, compassion, accountability, compatibility, aspirations, and empathy?

Did you notice I conveniently left out a flawless face, ideal smile, and a drop dead body?

It is because in a long term relationship, the heart, character, and integrity will ninety nine times out of a hundred always win in the end.

Don’t get me wrong, there are beautiful people who have the whole package, brains and beauty. Although, they are not the easiest to find and not the easiest to tame.

What I’m saying is, if a person knows they have the full gamut of qualities, they know their marketability, so ‘you’d better bring your A game’ if your going to spend time with them, is usually their mindset.

When speaking on the heart, intentions always come to mind. What intentions does a person have as they travel through their respective life?

Are they about others first, and then themselves, or do they want theirs first? This is a poignant question anyone can ask themselves as a soul search in order to gain additional perspective about their heart so as to know the path they are travelling down.

Once more, this is a quality to look for when screening a panel of people who you see have potential and peering through thin disguises can become a learned, efficient art.

Question: Would you pass up an opportunity to be with someone who is not your ideal physical specimen but you know they would be the perfect compliment to you and vice versa just to be with a less compatible, more attractive person?

That question is what one should sort out before delving deep into a committed relationship. Your honest intentions usually mean everything to someone else and are the very hinge a single persons future can depend on.
Being lost when understanding intentions is not a viable option.

Fact: Some of the most beautiful people I have ever been around are some of the least attractive to the eyes; their selflessness, caring, attitude, and personality are impossible to overlook, leaving the more attractive person ’somewhere in a cloud of dust on a rural road in my mind.’

Their heart is like a beacon in the pitch dark where light is less than sparse. It screams without saying a word!

People with good hearted intentions are like glimmering diamonds. Finding them is not that hard if you know what your looking for. So next time you come across a less than beautiful potential mate, ask yourself, “is this person’s inner beauty worth tossing away, or did you just find a gem?”

the way i do.. :)

..after a long, long time of hibernating.. I'M BACK! uhmmm, its just that..i just lack of words to say.. can't think of anything to blog 'bout..that's why.. :D

and now, it's really a miracle.. :D i have a new post.. haha.. though nothing much to say talaga.. i just would like to have it posted.. in remembrance of his special day.. :D

hay, grabe.. i just love this song... :) after a long time na hnd k naririnig 'tong song na'to... bgla nalng.....ayun na! just last2x week if i can still remember it correctly, i heard it again.. courtesy of ate teri's innova.. grabe, made me missed someone again.. awww... :(

matagal k ng gusto 'tong song na 'to.. and now super fave ko xa ulit..hehe.. LSS???.. over and over... hahaha...

this is for u, hon.. HAPPY BDAY.. :) this is ur special day, i know that.. :)


"The Way I Do"

by Marcos Hernandez

Your kiss, your smile, your mind
You're sunlight in my eyes
I miss your breath on my neck
When we whisper in the nightDidn't wanna want you
Didn't wanna need you so bad
Didn't wanna wake up
And find that I was falling so fast
Didn't wanna need you
Didn't wanna need anyone
Now look what you've done
Now I can't go on without you
I'm naked, I cant fake it.
I'm not that strong without you
Never thought I could love you the way I do.

Your touch, your skin, can't believe the way you let me in
Don't rush tonight, I need you like the ocean needs the tide.

Didn't wanna want you
Didn't wanna need you so bad
Didn't wanna wake up
And find that I was falling so fast
Didn't wanna need you
Didn't wanna need anyone
Now look what you've done

Now I can't go on without you
I'm naked, I cant fake it.
I'm not that strong without you
Never thought I could love you the way I do.

I always thought I would stand on my own
Climb a mountain top all alone
Relying, depending on no one
Now look at what you've done

Now I can't go on without you
I'm naked, I cant fake it.
I'm not that strong without you
Never thought I could love you the way I do.

Never thought I could love you
Never thought I could need you
Never thought I could want you
The way I do

Never thought I could love you
Never thought I could need you
Never thought I could want you
The way I do

I love you
I need you
I want you
..the way I do
[x2]


PS: ATE TERI... hmmm thanks for introducing to me again this song.. hehe.. i know, this is your song to my insan right now.. kya can relate k nMn tlg.. :D hehe, peace! :D

for the benefit of all people, i believe.. :)

..i've read this article a while ago, and found it really interesting and true.. so i decided to share it with you guys.. :)

DATING 101: Are Bad Dating Habits Keeping You Single?

Five tips to free yourself from common dating traps...
By Lisa Steadman, The Relationship Journalist

In the search for love, it's all too easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken hearts, and bad love habits. And while bad dates and broken hearts are part of the dating journey toward happily-ever-after, bad love habits can and should be avoided at all costs.
So what's a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that's keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship. The following are some common bad dating beliefs:
• You choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs.

• You think love has to be difficult, painful, and/or hard.

• You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.

• You believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children.

If any of the above sound familiar, don't worry. You're not a lost cause. In fact, with a little time and effort, you can turn things around! What follows are five simple and effective tips and techniques geared toward helping you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad dating habits. Practiced over time, you can and will kick any bad dating habit -- for good!

1. Identify the dating traps you're stuck in
Think you've got to miraculously solve all your problems before you'll be deserving of love? Convinced there are no good "ones" left? Or do you believe that your perfect partner will one day swoop in and magically save you from your life? If any or all of the above sound familiar, chances are good that you suffer from some common dating traps. In order to become a successful single, you first need to free yourself from these traps. Acknowledging the traps you're stuck in is the first step. Next, you've got to break free of these traps, as well as any other limiting or destructive beliefs that are keeping you stuck. To find out how, keep reading.

2. Assess your excess baggage
Next, it's important to get honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on dates (or in life in general). What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Rejection, disappointment, betrayal? This is from your past, not your present or future. If you've got negative or destructive beliefs or fears weighing you down, you owe it to yourself to dump that excess baggage!

3. Dump your excess baggage
In order to have a happily ever after future, you have to first believe you deserve finding a mate. Gather those painful memories, that chip on your shoulder, any residual anger from past relationship experiences, and tell them they've got to go. Thank them for the lessons you've learned and tell them that it's now time for you to stand on your own two feet. In your mind's eye, give them the heave-ho! Next, start visualizing the kind of life you want to have, complete with your dream job, perfect partner, ideal home, etc. By getting clear about what you want, you give yourself permission to attract it.

4. Stop putting off your life and/or personal happiness
So many of us put off personal happiness waiting for some external result like "I'll be happy when I lose weight, when I pay off my debts, when I get a better job." The truth is, you deserve to enjoy your fabulously imperfect life right this very minute!
When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities. Instead of postponing joy until something external happens, today's the day to start celebrating the joy in your everyday life.

5. Embrace a new dating vocabulary
Now that you're baggage light and dating-trap free, it's time to introduce a new vocabulary to your dating belief system. Every morning and night for 30 days, practice the following exercise: Say to yourself "Love/dating/my ideal relationship is..." and then fill in the blank with the appropriate words (words like healthy, whole, loving, fun, etc.). By creating a new vocabulary for yourself, you may be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships changes, and as a result, you'll start attracting happier and healthier potential partners. Love that!
So there you have it -- five simple dating tips and techniques to help you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad love habits. May you learn them, love them, live them. In doing so, you just may fall in love with your life all over again, not to mention exponentially increase your chances of future relationship success.

Good luck and happy dating! :)

hibernating.....

too obvious, im soooo damn busy nowadays.. can't even update my blog.. hay! :(

too many things happened dis past few days... mixed emotions?? yeah ryt....
as they say, "When it Rains, it pours.." and "When it rains, it floods.." hahaha...
oh well, don't have enough time... i really can't accomodate all of them.. hehehe...

but seriously, my HEART is focused on one person right now, and i hope he wouldn't give me severe headaches.... :)

don't have to elaborate.. i'm speechless, can't say anything 'bout it.... obviously, my blog is really hibernating.. lol.. and im sooo sorry 'bout it.. :))

Milk and Toast and Honey by Roxette

Milk and toast and honey make it sunny on a rainy Saturday, he-he-hey
Milk and toast, some coffee take the stuffiness out of days you hate, you really hate
Slow morning news pass me by
I try not to analyze but didn't he blow my mind this time
Didn't he blow my mind?

(Here he comes)
To bring a little lovin', honey
To take away the hurt inside
Is everything that matters to me
Is everything I want in life

Milk and toast and honey
Ain't it funny how things sometimes look so clear and feel so near
The dreams I dream, my favourite wishful thinkin'
Oh, he's bookmarked everywhere, everywhere
True love might fall from the sky
You never know what to find but didn't he blow my mind this time
Didn't he blow my mind?

(Here he comes)
To bring a little lovin', honey
To take away the pain inside
Is everything that matters to me
Is everything I want from life

Oh lay a little lovin', honey
To feel you're gettin' close to me
Is everything that matters to me
Is everywhere I wanna be....

FULL Tank MATTERS!!! :)

for the past weeks, me too felt the sudden fuel price increase.. argh! dis past few weeks (3 weeks i think), i never had the chance to go to a gasoline station for zajh's FULL Tank.. minsan pa2gas k xa 500, 800, 1000 or 1500php and the minimum is 300,, and NEVER a FULL tank for the past 3 weeks.. :( i remember the days 2loi when i was in grade school and high school, kahit magpa-gas lng cna mommy ng 100 or 200php eh okei na.. super layo na ng mapu2ntahan namin.. but nowadays dat is never applicable, kng magpa2-gas k ng 100 or 200php ngayon eh sandali lng at EMPTY ka na ulet.. grabe! hirap tlg ng life ngayon.. and dahil ilang weeks din akong hnd nkapag full tank, i thought of having zajh a FULL tank right now.. yipeee.. :) if ever cgro ngsa2lita ang kotse k, eh super happy and nagpa2salamat cgro xa ngyn sa gnawa k.. haha.. :D
i am now reviving my habit of having zajh a full tank every start of the week.. para khit every start ng week eh maramdaman kong FULL tank xa.. haha.. :D and dat is a 'promise'!.. so to start my promise... here's a captured pic, proof na FULL Tank c zajh for the start of dis week.. hmmmm, i think zajh is now ready to go to Cabanatuan for this week.. :)